Marriage- God's Institution

What on earth do we take marriage for? This note was inspired by the divorce between Tiger Woods and his wife (ex).

Do people really know the reality of marriage? Do they actually know what they are getting into? Do they actually know what was on the mind of the person that coined d phrase '4 beta 4 worse'? I don’t think so.
Most ladies have the idea that marriage is a bed of roses. They are so eager to get into it. Little do they know that their eagerness is to get into trouble!
When you marry a man, its like you are buying a bag of mixed seafood. Even though it’s called seafood, not all of it is edible. When you get into marriage, you start unpacking the bag to see the content.

All through your courtship days, you were bargaining for and purchasing the bag. You can never find it 100% edible, never! Women are so swift to point out the man's bullshit to the whole world after the man has taken a lot of theirs.
Who knows how many times Tiger Wood's ex-wife had messed up and we heard nothing of it. Now because he has messed up, (well he did) d whole world must know. Didn’t she actually say for beta for worse at the altar?

Yes, he did wrong but that’s not enough reason for her to end his life (his career). She made a very selfish decision. If she actually truly loved this man, it should be all inclusive (his good, bad, mess ups, big ups, rise, fall, successes, failures). She only married the positive, while the negative can either be for him alone or for another woman.
Do you think the men in lasting marriages are perfect? No! They are not but their wives are living with the bag of mixed seafood. Before you get married, pause, think, what am I getting into?
 When you marry a man, you marry his snoring, dirty socks, bad breath, body odour, disorderliness and so on. Are you mature enough to handle it? Are you ready? Can you endure when necessary?

These are some of the numerous questions we should ask ourselves.
When entering into marriage, don’t ever enter with the mind that there's a way out of d marriage if you are not happy wit it. There's no way out! Trust me, divorce isn’t a way out either. So you better look carefully, yorubas will say 'wo ofinifini'. But asides all this, marriage is a very beautiful institution, all you need to do is get things right.

With Roses, comes Thorns

Do you reach a point in your life where you get so frustrated and you make some decisions, telling yourself that its either you go through with this decision or nothing. You don’t care what the effect of the decision is at that time or who it may affect, all you know is that the decision must be executed ASAP. In as much as we all no that decisions are only to be made when d head is straight (well, its not like that’s the only time you actually make right decisions), you don’t actually care.

Do you get to a point where you look around you and everything doesn’t seem right? I mean, everything can’t always be right at the same time though, but at this time it feels like noting is actually right.
When you lay down to sleep, you think and weep. Your emotions go deep. When will things change, when will the time come when you can look round and say 'its all good!'. Yes I know, life is beautiful and will always be (at least that’s my outlook to life) but at this moment it ain’t beautiful.

Do you get to that point where amidst friends and fun you just seem alone, you want to be on your own. Nothing they do amuses you. You find anything they do hardly fun. You desperately want to be alone. Just you, no one else.

You can’t actually say why but for some reason, this is how you feel. If anyone ever asked you what’s wrong (which you are praying no one will), you can’t actually say what exactly the matter is.
All these and many more are just the numerous thorns attached to the rose of life. The thorns are part of what makes the rose beautiful and grow. So when next you get to that low point in your life, look at it this way 'how would the rose live without its thorns?'

Smile: I Wake up Smiling

I love the waking-up smile as a metaphor for enlightenment, and maybe I'll write a song someday, but I do mean literally that I start each day this way. Often I awaken in the very early morning hours to meditate; I wake up smiling. After my meditation, I sometimes return to bed, so I get a second chance to wake up.

In the Morning

On those mornings when a spontaneous smile is not my first response out of sleep, I make sure that it's my second response, and one that quickly follows the first thought or impulse. It's rewarding when it's spontaneous and I'm a witness to my own process. It's also rewarding when it's a choice, and I choose that expression, and still I'm a witness to my own process.

Usually, my morning joy is subject-free. That's the best kind, because it reminds me that I don't need a specific subject or condition or situation to make me happy. Instead, my natural response is about life which makes my day flow more easily.

Through the Day

Sometimes during the day I experience moments of intensity or frustration. For example, learning a new piece of technology or trying to figure something out that seems totally illogical. Just the other day I heard myself saying to myself, "oh no, not something else I have to learn!" Wow, that was revealing! By nature, I'm a great lover of life-long learning, collecting information in my head and my computer. That "oh, no" was a signal of my feeling overwhelmed, which I could very quickly turn to a smile, and really a laugh — both of which came long before the satisfaction of mastering yet another skill to add to my repertoire.

This age of technology is the impetus for both grins and frowns. Not too long ago I was sputtering about something on the Internet that was not working properly. Darn, gee wiz, heck, and perhaps some other words came to my head or my lips. I stopped myself in mid sputter, let a pleasant expression come over my face and my demeanor, and enjoyed the thought: oh gosh, it's a miracle that any of this works at all!

From time to time I've thought about writing an article entitled "I always know my true attitude in the moment when I observe my reaction to spilling, dropping, or breaking something." Perhaps it's because I haven't been able to come up with a nifty title that the article is unwritten or perhaps this article will stand in its place.

If I laugh or smile when I drop, spill, or break something, I know that I'm in a generally good mood. My reaction to the mishap is only related in part to the mishap; it's a reaction to life. When I react in a more negative way to spilling something, it's only in part related to the mishap and much more an indication of my general attitude.

An Indicator of My Feeling

It's very important to me that I feel good. I attend to my feelings as quickly as I notice that I'm feeling not-good. Smiling is simply one indicator — like smiley stickers or emoticons used widely in Internet communication. Such symbols can either be used to cover up real emotions or to represent real emotions. As with everything, I — we all — get to choose.

Smiling is related to my "feeling barometer," which helps me to know if I'm balanced and feeling good. Balance is an in-the-moment dynamic. I'm not "always" in a state of balance, rather my intention is to move myself back to a state of balance as soon as possible when I get out of balance. To do that, I pay attention to my feelings and measure my smile.

When I approach balance in this way, I can more easily find my balance in each situation. A long time ago, I made a decision to feel good. I don't have to figure out all the aspects of every situation in which I find myself, I simply pay attention to how I feel or if I'm beaming, and realign myself when I'm off balance.

Smiling makes everything easier for me. In case it's not obvious in what I've said so far, I'm talking about a genuine, inner expression which usually also shows on my face. I didn't write all this to explain that I put a pretend smile on my face, although if ever I need to start with pretending, I do that gladly. The smile I'm talking about is more than an expression you can view on my face; it's a feeling that I can feel down to the cells in my toes. When my cells smile, I am truly joyous.

Follow your Passion

It is very important in life that you follow your passion.

It’s a lot better and healthier doing what you always love doing than just following the crowd. The economy can be an influencing factor but still try your best.

My passion is DANCE or anything creative. I am doing that right now. Even when it gets frustrating, its not obvious because it is what I love!